Category: Dating and Relationships
Hello everyone,
Sorry all when I posted before I was feeling very down so I didn't improve my post before sending it to the boards. However like last time going to be deliberately somewhat reserved in what I say although less danger of it this time as for one thing the lady is not blind/VI... (Read on).
I have learned a difficult lesson, and guess this would relate to whether a blind person should date another Blind person or a sighted in part, not that I'm going down that road any further with this personal reflection about my experiences, but that might come into it as well is what I mean to say and no further.
Earlier this year quite by chance or not in a way, I had joined and don't laugh but on a low ebb an FB dating group and considering that group was closed since, and sure this was due to a local of fake people, and I was very careful as a result as a lot of people on their, who had fake profiles especially pretending to be ladies or even if they were ladies, they said things which immediately set alarm bells ringing. However I made a feeble effort in trying to introducing myself with not a very good photo, which resulted in someone saying something like "you're (meaning I) fat!", which maybe by another man (not sure as I am not sure what gender their name was and sure still is). Now to cut a logn story short, out of all this a lady and I'm I'm positive despite her odd nickname that she is definitely genuine, what I've come to describe as 'rescued' me from this situation but from there which I was just going to 'brush off' and re-consider trying again at a later date. However after starting to chat and I early on before this bravely added her even though you not supposed to do that on FB as a friend and we soon found we genuinely liked each other and I could tell she was genuine, as I mentionned something that I had heard been in the news RE her country just days before (a terrible typhoon though not in her area thankfully). Now yes I know you can have dating sites in the traditional sense but I'm not in a position nor did I want to pay for such a site at this current time for a number of reasons I won't go into here.
Anyway soon talked to this lady who we had a lot in ccommon, and only because there was a month when I was busy and (although I briefly got scared) but it turned out the young lady a few years younger than me was also very busy over that time. Not going to say much about her accept, just like the lady whom I had suddenly had enough due to been told off all the time, (see my last topic); she is also from another country and even further away which despite hurdles to overcome like apparently where this first lady lives is recommended not to visit by Westerners and I don't think she is that financially well off either, I'm determined, now that at the end of the relationship in the middle and thus have now got back into talking to her again properly (and she was talking to me in the middle which I allowed though didn't take serious interest for a while) I'm determined to carefully and slowly if needed to make things work out, so wish me luck.
So I now realise I should have stuck to my Plan A and perhaps my original instinct was the best (if that's the right word to use), is why I've called this topic what I have, but oh well the wonderful concept of hindsight I guess not that I needed a reminder really!:))&smile
Thanks for reading and kind regards,
Timber AKA Timothy Bamber User #7902
If this one doesn't work out, my advice would be to at least try to find someone a bit closer to you, maybe if not in your own country, a neighboring one, perhaps. Online dating can be difficult, especially if you're looking for a seriously long term relationship. it seems more successful if you're just looking for casual flings. Good luck to you, and I hope it works out.
I agree with Anthony. I don't think I could seriously date someone out of the U.S. unless it was a country like England, place like Australia...you know, places that are on good terms with the U.S.
God bless!